嫉妒心

上周在一次与姐姐的交谈中，我真正认识到了嫉妒心的可怕与要消除嫉妒心的重要性。

叔叔告诉过我们：嫉妒心是万恶之源，是来自心底的不善，它让人见不得别人比自己好，希望别人都不如自己。它是人类所有品质中最邪恶的一种，它会让人失去理智，最终走上一条不归路。有了嫉妒心，就会试图证明自己是对的、证明自己如何好，从而衍生出炫耀、显示等心理。如果嫉妒心不断加重，甚至会将心中的怨恨转换成行动，造成各种冲突：背地里说人坏话，当面冷言冷语，或是直接攻击。满心嫉妒的人是不会有做作为的，因为时间都用在对别人的怨恨、不满，想着要如何破坏对方等等。这种负面、邪恶的心理不断滋长，最终就会失去理智，做出违反道德、法律的事。嫉妒会一发不可收拾，形成一个循环：首先是不停地关注、反复地回想那个自己嫉妒的人，记住更多的有关他的信息，然后从中发现更多值得被嫉妒的地方，最后引发更多的嫉妒情绪……如此看来，嫉妒心是一颗多么可怕的心啊，我们真的应该去掉这颗邪恶的心！

In a conversation with my sister last week, I really learned how terrible jealousy is and how important it is to get rid of it.

Uncle told us: Jealousy is the root of all evil, and it is the unkindness that comes from the bottom of the heart. It makes people see that others are better than themselves, and hope that others are not as good as themselves. It is the most wicked of all human qualities, and it can make people lose their minds and end up on a path of no return. With jealousy, one will try to prove that one is right and how good one is, which will lead to the psychology of showing off and showing off. If jealousy continues to increase, it will even turn the resentment in the heart into actions, causing all kinds of conflicts: slander people behind their backs, speak coldly in person, or attack directly. People who are full of jealousy will not do anything, because time is spent on resentment and dissatisfaction with others, thinking about how to destroy them, and so on. This kind of negative and evil psychology keeps growing, and eventually it will lose its reason and do things that violate morals and laws. Jealousy will spiral out of control, forming a cycle: first, you keep paying attention, and repeatedly recalling the person you are jealous of, remembering more information about him, and then discovering more worthy of being jealous, and finally triggering More jealousy... In this way, what a terrible heart jealousy is, and we really should get rid of this evil heart!

真正的反思

叔叔总是告诉我们要经常反思自己，这样我们才可以认识到自己的问题从而改正它。通过上周与姐姐的交谈，我终于对反思这件事有了更深刻的认识：反思不仅是在回忆自己之前的思想与行为并在发现问题后简单告诉自己不能这样想，而是应该在发现问题后，一层一层的仔细审视自己的内心。比如：当我们发现自己不高兴了，就要思考为什么我会不高兴，在找到表面原因后，再深挖自己的内心，为什么这件事会让我不高兴、观察自己的思维活动，直到找到内心深处最根本的原因。我们要改正的就是这个问题，因为是它让我们产生了此后的一层层心理，最终导致了我们最表面的问题。任何问题都有它的根源，有些问题也许真的很阴暗、不堪，以至于即便我们知道它的存在，自己也不愿面对、不愿承认、不愿将它公之于众并改正，但长此下去它只会更加阴暗、更加不堪，永远被深深的埋藏在心底。所以改问题就是将心底最阴暗一面暴露在阳光之下，这也许需要很大的勇气，但只有这样我们才能拥有一个美好的未来。

Uncle always told us to reflect on ourselves often so that we can recognize our problem and correct it. Through the conversation with my sister last week, I finally have a deeper understanding of reflection: reflection is not just recalling my previous thoughts and behaviors and simply telling myself not to think so after discovering a problem, but should After the question, carefully examine your own heart layer by layer. For example: when we find that we are unhappy, we need to think about why I am unhappy. After finding the surface reason, we dig deep into our heart to see why this matter makes me unhappy. Observe our thinking activities until we find the reason. The most fundamental reason deep inside. What we need to correct is this problem, because it makes us have a layer of psychology after that, and finally leads to our most superficial problems. Every problem has its roots, and some problems may be so dark and unbearable that even if we know of its existence, we are unwilling to face it, admit it, and make it public and correct it, but in the long run It will only become darker and more unbearable, and will always be deeply buried in the bottom of my heart. Therefore, to correct the problem is to expose the darkest side of the heart to the sun, which may require a lot of courage, but only in this way can we have a bright future.