这周，在叔叔所教方法的提醒下，我由原来意识不到自己在想什么，终于发现了自己平时在想什么。按照叔叔教的方法做之后，我被自己的思想状态吓了一大跳。我发现自己几乎一天中无时无刻都在抱怨，抱怨一切事情。我发现自己有一个很不好的习惯，就是会在事情发生前，先在脑子里往坏的方向想一遍：遇到这个事情，别人会这样想，对我这样做。然后自己开始生气，抱怨。当我抑制住这种预想后，“不会的，人都挺好的，事情会很顺利的。”我发现别人都没有像我想的那么坏，没有那样做。
然而当遇到有些事情时，我还是会抱怨。过了一会儿，我意识到自己在抱怨，会按叔叔教的方法告诉自己“不能这样想。”我发现用叔叔教的“同理心”的方法克服抱怨非常有效：站在别人的角度想一下这件事情。当我站在别人的角度看时，会发现这件事情，确实是这么回事，确实自己做的还不够或不对。这时抱怨就从根上解决了。有的事情这样想后，我发现自己还是会抱怨，就用叔叔教的另一个方法“抑制它”，这种思想会很快被消除。
不得不说，我觉得自己人生有希望了，我终于可以不再抱怨了。
但我也很忧愁，我还能在叔叔这儿在待几个月，因为客观的一切，金钱、手续、签证，我要去上大学了。这种思想上的变化如果巩固的不扎实，一旦脱离了这个环境，没有叔叔的提醒，我又会回到之前充满抱怨的状态。我觉得自己的人生又会变的黑暗，不知道希望在哪里。我只能说自己改变的太晚了。如果我能早点听叔叔的话，按叔叔教的方法做，我的思想状态早就会开始变化。我到叔叔这儿来的太晚了，17岁多才来，而且来了之后，我没有好好珍惜这个机会。
我希望我能继续按照叔叔教的方法好好做，认真巩固这种思想上的变化，做一个让自己和别人都快乐的人。
This week, under the reminder of the method taught by uncle, I was not aware of what I was thinking, and finally discovered what I was thinking. After following the method taught by uncle, I was taken aback by my state of mind. I find myself complaining almost all the time, about everything. I found that I have a very bad habit, that is, before something happens, I will think about it in a bad direction in my mind: When encountering this thing, others will think like this and do this to me. Then I started to get angry and complain. When I suppressed this kind of anticipation, "No, everyone is good, and things will go well." I found that no one else was as bad as I thought, and they didn't do that.
However, when encountering certain things, I still complain. After a while, I realized that I was complaining, and I would tell myself "don't think like this" according to the method uncle taught me. I found that the "empathy" method taught by uncle was very effective in overcoming complaints: think from the perspective of others this matter. When I look at it from the perspective of others, I will find that this matter is indeed the case, and that what I have done is not enough or right. At this time, the complaint is solved from the root. After thinking about some things like this, I found that I still complained, so I used another method taught by uncle to "suppress it", and this kind of thinking would be quickly eliminated.
I have to say that I feel hopeful in my life, and I can finally stop complaining.
But I am also very worried, I can still stay with uncle for a few months, because of everything objectively, money, procedures, visas, I am going to university. If this kind of ideological change is not consolidated, once I get out of this environment, without uncle's reminder, I will return to the previous state full of complaints. I feel that my life will become dark again, and I don't know where the hope is. I can only say that I changed too late. If I could have listened to uncle earlier and followed the method taught by my uncle, my state of mind would have started to change. I came to uncle too late, when I was 17 years old, and after I came, I didn't cherish this opportunity.
I hope that I can continue to do well according to the method taught by uncle, conscientiously consolidate this change in thinking, and be a person who makes myself and others happy.
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