這周，愷元哥畢業了，伴隨著最後的合影，最後一次送別，愷元哥圓滿的離開了叔叔這裏，開始了自己在美國的大學生活。
2018年1月3日，是愷元哥來到叔叔這裏的第一天。也許剛來時的愷元哥還不知道，在未來的四年零八個月裡，會對他的人生賦予什麽樣的改變，什麽樣的意義。叔叔對我們的教育，改變了我們不良的思維方式，壞習慣，提高了鑒別力、自制力，學會了反思、理敬、孝順，成爲了一個善良的人，優秀的人，和幸福的人。在今天這樣一個紛繁複雜的社會裡，人們可能已經很難意識到這些品質對一個孩子的成長是多麼重要，但是這些良好的品質已在今天的愷元哥和叔叔這裡的學生身上生根發芽。很多人把孩子送來叔叔這裏，也許只是因爲某一個不值一提的小原因，但殊不知，一個孩子在叔叔這裏學到了多少其他孩子無法觸及的知識，改變了多少不良的思維。
愷元哥就是我們中的榜樣，舉個小例子，愷元哥在來叔叔這裏之前（因爲我們以前認識），我和愷元哥幾乎沒有説過一句話，當然很多細節不能悉數，就感覺他是個很高冷自負的人，不敢接近。來到叔叔這裏以後，愷元哥逐漸變得開朗，活潑，待人真誠，善解人意，處事客觀公正，也成爲了自己爲數不多的知心朋友。
叔叔很早就告訴過我們，我們要珍惜大家在一起的時光，因爲在叔叔這裏大家處在一個思維環境中，一個狀態下，相互之間會聊得來，很快樂，但與其他同齡人的思維方式相差很大，在其他地方很難再找到真正的知心朋友。所以愷元哥的離開大家都有一絲不捨。
如今愷元哥已經畢業，就像在避風港經久停留的小船，升級了固件，提高了質量，從新開始揚帆起航，前往浩瀚的海洋。希望愷元哥能夠牢記心中所學，懷揣著在叔叔這裏珍貴的記憶，永遠能夠快樂，幸福。
This week, Rain graduated. With the last group photo and the last farewell, Rain left his uncle satisfactorily and started his new university life.
January 3, 2018 was the first day Rain came to his uncle. Maybe Rain, when he first arrived, didn't know what kind of changes and meanings would be given to his life in the next four years and eight months. Uncle's education to us has changed our bad way of thinking and bad habits, improved our discernment and self-control, learned to reflect, respect, and filial piety, and become a kind person, an excellent person, and a happy person. Many of these people don't realize it, or maybe some choose to forget it over time, but these good qualities have taken root in Rain today and almost every other uncle's student. Many people send their children to their uncles, perhaps for a small reason that is not worth mentioning, but everyone knows how much knowledge a child has learned from his uncle that other children cannot touch, and how much bad thinking has been changed.
Rain is the best example of us. The former Rain, in my image, before coming to my uncle (because we knew each other before), Rain and I hardly ever said a word. Of course, many details cannot be exhausted. He is a very cold person and dare not approach him. As he came to his uncle, Rain gradually became cheerful and considerate, and became one of the few close friends.
Uncle told us a long time ago that we should cherish the time everyone spends together, because in uncle here, everyone is in a mental environment, in a state, they can chat with each other, very happy, but with other peers. The way of thinking is very different, and it is difficult to find true close friends in other places. Therefore, everyone felt a little bit reluctant to leave Rain.
But in any case, now Rain has graduated, like a small boat that has stayed in a safe haven for a long time, upgraded the firmware, improved the quality, and set sail from a new beginning to the vast ocean. I hope Rain can keep in mind what he has learned, carry the time he spent here with his uncle, and be happy and happy forever.
純正的心理，爲他的出發點
小時候，總覺得誰對我好，或者給了我利益，這個人就是好人。同齡人有了比自己更好的東西，自己也會吵鬧著爭取自己也擁有。從小以這樣的思維方式長大，現在想來真是無比羞愧，也很後悔。尤其是在與人相處時，自己總是會出現各種複雜的心理，顯示，嫉妒，爭鬥。
最近叔叔告訴了我們一個道理，看人要看人心，改變一個人也是要改變這個人的心。一個人做事情的出發點是最重要的，即使事情做的再好，心中的目的不純，是爲了自己得到點好處，那麽就成爲了表面華麗，實則背後存在陰暗面的事情。可能會得到很多關係不深的人誇贊，但在真正深入瞭解之後，則會遭到有鑒別力的人的厭惡。回想自己做過的很多事情，其實大多都存在這樣的問題，有目的的去做一件事情，或一句誇贊，或爲了得到什麽。在很多事情上，内心中實則都參雜了很多不好的心理。
我們很幸運，因爲叔叔告訴了我們這樣的道理，使我們能夠有機會去反思自己的行爲，並設法改變，不再像以前那樣。同時也讓我們擁有了一項識別人的方法：看人做事的目的，如果目的是把事情做好，或爲他人著想，而不是爲了自己的利益，那麽這樣的人肯定是可以讓你安心的。
When I was young, I always felt that whoever treated me well or gave me benefits was a good person. If your peers have something better than you, you will be clamoring for one yourself. Growing up with such a way of thinking, I feel ashamed and regret now thinking about it. Especially when getting along with others, I always have various complex psychology, showing, jealousy, and fighting.
uncle recently told us a truth. To see people depends on people's hearts. To change a person is to change the heart of this person. A person’s starting point for doing things is the most important. No matter how well things are done, the psychological purpose is not pure, and it is to get some benefits for oneself. Then it becomes a thing that is gorgeous on the surface, but there is a dark side behind it. It may be praised by a lot of people who are not well-connected, but when you really get to know it, it will be hated by people who are discriminating. Looking back on many things I have done, in fact, most of them have such problems. To do something with a purpose, or to praise, or to get something, subjectively, maybe I rarely think so, but after finishing this thing, look back. When I thought about it, I found that there would really be an improper mentality.
We are fortunate because our uncle taught us this and gave us the opportunity to reflect on our own behavior and try to change it and not be what it used to be. At the same time, we have a method of identifying people: look at the purpose of people doing things. If the purpose is to do things well, or for the sake of others, not for their own interests, then such a person definitely you can reassure.
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